A brief guide to obtaining sexual consent and establishing personal boundaries while respecting your partner's boundaries. 

A brief harm reduction guide to obtaining sexual consent and establishing personal boundaries while respecting your partner's boundaries.


Acquiring consent is when you the other party says “yes” not when someone doesn’t say “no”. Sex without consent is not sex, it is sexual assault and/or rape.



  • Sexual Consent includes both verbal and non-verbal cues

  • No one is “asking for it” unless they are asking for consent

  • Consent requires clarity and consciousness

  • Consent is a conversation, it is an enthusiastic “yes”

between roleplay and the real world

Some kinds of roleplay involve protesting verbally.

In some kink-play, a “no” is part of the scenario, 

so if this your kink then you need to have a safeword or safe gesture

We recommend the stoplight system:

      • Green = All systems go!

      • Yellow = Proceed with caution you’re approaching my limit.
      • Red = Stop Now!

Real Sexual Consent is mutual and CERTAIN

Every sexual experience should not only be approached with consent,
but with enthusiastic consent. Make sure everyone is into it, before you get into it.

Saying yes to one activity doesn’t mean yes to another (or all) activities – ask for consent before each new sexual activity.

ie. “Do you like this?” “Can I go down on you?” “Is it okay if I pull your hair?” etc.

Figure out your own your mutual desires and boundaries with your potential partner clearly and honestly before engaging in sexual contact Consent should be continuous and can be renegotiated and/or withdrawn at any time before or during sex

Consent is about more than just sexual intercourse. Costumes are not consent – ask before you touch/spank/yank/pull/etc! Ask before you take someone’s photo – not everyone wants their good time to be photo documented for safety/privacy/etc reasons!

Ask someone before you hug them/put your arm around them/hold their hand/touch their hair/etc.

If you are gifting someone something, be honest about what the gift contains - some people cannot ingest certain substances due to drug testing in their profession or they may be allergic to what your gift contains

Consent is not just about receiving a “yes” it’s also about handling a “no” with respect even if someone refuses your gift

When can
Consent not
be given?

What are your own boundaries and desires? If you can’t figure them out yourself, then you can’t possibly be clear with your partner about what you’re requesting consent for

If that person is underage (look up the law for “age of consent” in your state), they are not able to give consent to sex or taking intoxicants.

Consent cannot be gained through coercion, intimidation, manipulation or threats.

Consent is never assumed or silent – consent can never be given by someone who is passed out or asleep.

If someone is drunk or under the influence, they are unable to give consent. If you want to play while high/drunk, make your agreements with one another beforehand.

Consent must be clearly granted from an individual who is clearly in control of their faculties enough to grant it

Communicating Consent can come in many forms

“I’d really like to hug / kiss / …… you. Would you like to as well?”

“Do you like it when I do this?”

“I love your costume, may I touch your tail?

“I love when people wear kilts! May I grab your ______?”

“Is it OK if I take off my________?”

“What would do you like me to do for you?”

“It makes me feel good when you kiss / touch / _____ me there. What makes you feel good?”

“Those chaps look awesome on you! May I spank you?”

“I really feel like ______ you. Do you feel like it too?”

“I would love to show my friend back home your costume! May I take a picture of you and post it online?”

“Have you ever _____? Would you like to try it with me?”

A harm reduction guide to protecting your ears and reducing the risk of hearing loss while romping to amplified music and raging in front of the speakers. 




Hearing damage can take the form of temporary or permanent ringing in the ears (tinnitus) and loss of the ability to hear clearly.

Amplified music can cause noise-induced hearing loss (NIHL). A study in Great Britain found that 62% of regular clubbers have symptoms of hearing loss 

The risk of hearing damage depends on;

  1. How loud the music is
  2. How close you are to the speakers
  3. How long you are on the dance floor
  4. Previous hearing damage

You may be at risk if you have a family history of hearing loss.



  • You hear ringing in your ears; you're sensitive to loud noises.

  • You have difficulty hearing others when there is background noise.

  • People sound like they're mumbling or talking too quickly;
    you have to ask them to repeat themselves.

  • You need to turn the volume up on the TV or radio higher than others.

  • You hear the telephone better through one ear than the other.

If you have any of these symptoms, get your hearing checked by a hearing health professional. To prevent more damage, wear earplugs!

Be aware
of your environment

Sound levels in dance clubs can be as high as 115 decibels,
which can cause damage within a few seconds.

Stay at least 10 feet away from the speakers — dancing in front of speakers is very risky.

Use ear plugs - cotton and rolled up tissue paper provide NO protection.

Ask that sound levels be turned down if too loud.

Don't talk on the dance floor—shouting into ears can damage hearing.

Alcohol and drugs lower your sense of pain and increase the risk of hearing damage. Being tired, dehydrated, or overheated also increase risk.

Drink plenty of water. Take 10-30 minute breaks where sound levels are lower.

If you dance a lot or work in a club, consider getting custom earplugs for music attenuation to protect your hearing without distorting sound.


  1. With clean hands, roll the earplug until it is as thin as possible.

  2. Quickly insert the tapered end all the way into your ear.

  3. Hold it in place for at least 30 seconds until it fully expands.

  4. Release the earplug then gently push it in one more time to ensure a complete fit. The end should be even with the opening of your ear canal.

Whether you stay at home or attend a rager plague rave, use this rave scout guide safeguard yourself and your community from COVID-19.




COVID-19 affects different people in different ways.
The toll of the disease is almost unfathomable: COVID-19 has killed more than 1 million people in the nine months since it was first reported by the World Health Organization (WHO).

There have been more than 33 million cases reported so far—and many more go undocumented. Infected people have had a wide range of symptoms reported – from mild symptoms to severe illness.
Coronavirus can be severe, and some cases have caused death. The virus spreads from person to person, which is why these gatherings can be a risk. It is only diagnosed with a laboratory test.

Remember we are all differently vulnerable to the virus and need to be mindful of others. People face different risks than you do, be aware of your actions. Respect is an obligation, not just a courtesy PLUR.



The symptoms are showing up in people within 14 days of exposure to the virus.  As we gear up to rage, check yourself for these symptoms.

COVID-19 Symptoms Include:

  • Cough
  • Fever or chills
  • Shortness of breath or difficulty breathing
  • Muscle or body aches
  • Sore throat
  • New loss of taste or smell
  • Diarrhea
  • Headache
  • New fatigue
  • Nausea or vomiting
  • Congestion or runny nose

Take preventive measures to protect yourself and others by getting tested for COVID-19 before you decide to take part in gatherings. This is not only essential but is mandatory.


Masks are most essential in times when physical distancing is difficult. Masks prevent you from getting COVID-19 by 65%. If everyone wears them, it reduces risk by 98.5%. Wear your mask from the tip of your nose down. Masks help to cut down on inhaling pollutants, dust, dander, or getting bodily
fluids from another person.

The very first party masks can be traced all the way back to France in the 1500s when rich people began wearing face masks to go along with their lavish costumes worn as they partied.  The ornate masks gave people the opportunity to really cut loose because no one knew the identity of the person underneath.

The mask trend stuck throughout the centuries, and even now, are worn for fashion, to be able to find your crew, as well as keep out unwanted debris. Wear your mask, it is not only fashionable, but it is also essential.


Social distancing means keeping a safe space between yourself and other people who are not from your household. To practice social or physical distancing, stay at least 6 feet (about 2 arms’ length) from other people.COVID-19 spreads mainly among people who are in close contact (within about 6 feet) for a prolonged period. Spread happens when an infected person coughs, sneezes, or talks, and droplets from their mouth or nose are launched into the air and land in the mouths or noses of people nearby. The droplets can also be inhaled into the lungs. Keep your rave family close, but not too close! Social distancing is the safe way to party.


Washing hands can keep you healthy and prevent the spread of respiratory and diarrheal infections from one person to the next. Polish your gloving skills, and feel the music instead of touching.

Germs can spread from other people or surfaces when you:

  • Touch your eyes, nose, and mouth with unwashed hands
  • Prepare or eat food and drinks with unwashed hands
  • Touch a contaminated surface or objects
  • Blow your nose, cough, or sneeze into hands and then touch other people’s hands or common objects

Key times to wash your hands:

  • Before, during, and after preparing food
  • Before eating food
  • After using the toilet
  • After blowing your nose, coughing, or sneezing
  • After touching garbage

Be aware of your surroundings, keep an eye out for the nearest handwashing station, wash your hands often. Washing hands with soap and water is the best way to get rid of germs in most situations. If soap and water are not readily available, you can use an alcohol-based hand sanitizer that contains at least 60% alcohol. You can tell if the sanitizer contains at least 60% alcohol by looking at the product label.


A public bathroom is not a safe environment. One area of concern is the air. A flush creates an aerosol spray (the toilet plume), and the virus exists in feces. This is a risk since the virus enters the body through mucous membranes. The bathroom is not the place to congregate, make it quick, and get back to the mix.

The fundamental steps for prevention are:

  • Put a mask on before you enter.
  • Wash your hands immediately after.
  • Wait at least two minutes between uses.
  • Do not touch your face, specifically your mouth, nose, or eyes, before washing.
  • Before you leave, use your foot, elbow (if possible), or a paper towel to open the door, and once outside, spray your hands with a sanitizer.


The virus can also land on surfaces and objects and be transferred by touch. A person may get COVID-19 by touching the surface or object that has the virus on it and then touching their own mouth, nose, or eyes. Chances are your behavior is going to get more relaxed as time goes by at any function you decide to attend. As you ease into the atmosphere, remind yourself not to share any sort of item (beverages, food, phones, etc.) with strangers, friends, or loved ones alike. If absolutely necessary, disinfect the item before sharing it with others.


Prepare ahead of time and be sure to carry extra sanitizer, sanitary wipes, and additional masks as it may accidentally break or get lost. Have fun, enjoy the lights, and feel the music. Follow all these guidelines and you will take steps in preventing the spread of COVID-19.

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